Hi Friend,
Have you ever noticed how quickly we put our own desires on trial?
I want this.
And immediately:
Why?
Is that practical?
Can I afford it?
Does it make sense?
What if I regret it?
What would everyone else think?
Do I want it for the right reasons?
Would a more responsible person want something different?
Suddenly there's a prosecutor, a defense attorney and twelve imaginary jurors sitting inside your head debating whether your desire has presented sufficient evidence to be admitted into your life.
Meanwhile, all you said was:
I think I want this.
Wanting something doesn't mean you have to do it.
Desire isn't an instruction.
But it is information.
I want more adventure.
Interesting.
I want to live somewhere else.
Interesting.
I want more money.
Interesting.
I want a slower life.
Interesting.
I want to make something.
Interesting.
You don't have to immediately turn any of those things into a plan.
And you don't have to justify them before you're allowed to explore them.
Sometimes the most useful thing you can do is listen to yourself before practicality barges into the room.
There will be time for logistics.
There will be time for budgets and calendars and consequences and responsible decision-making.
Those things matter.
But they shouldn't always get the first word.
Because if every desire has to survive a cross-examination before you're even willing to acknowledge it, eventually you stop hearing yourself altogether.
Try letting the wanting exist for a minute.
No verdict required.
A gentle prompt
What do I want before I start explaining why I'm allowed to want it?
Write the answers quickly.
No explanations.
No disclaimers.
No but.
Just: I want...
And see what comes out.
Before I go...
You don't have to build your entire life around every desire you have.
But you might want to stop treating yourself like an unreliable witness.
You know more about what you want than you think.
See you next Sunday.
~Bex
